Almost didn’t read all the way through because I hate (don’t kill me) the ‘Daisy’ wispy 70s nostalgia that pervades the likes of Coachella et al, but I’m so glad I did because every word rang true. For young teenage me, and I know I’m showing my age here, the (original, Ralph Macchio) Karate Kid, Back To The Future and The Princess Bride were visited over and over and over at the cinema. Of late is has been The White Lotus, one and two (especially two - Harper Spiller is my 🥰) I’m a well and truly grown woman, FFS, but I need to escape dammit. And escape, immerse and fail to surface for ages, I certainly do. I know exactly where you’re coming from - that path is well trodden.
I have failed to be taken by Daisy Jones, but I did love The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo (also by Taylor Jenkins Reid) which was possibly the most perfect holiday read ever.
Can I suggest that if you really did like the style of documentary interview (which I HATED in written form with Daisy Jones, I found it tedious and way too heavy handed with exposition) then you should try Moonage Daydream on Netflix, about the very real David Bowie, it's honestly beautiful.
YES YES YES. 'Thinking deeply about it this week, what I think that this kind of fiction allows me is space to harmlessly flirt with doing things that would totally trash my life and everything I hold dear.' Totally agreed. Also, my fascination with the hair of the female cast was borderline unhealthy.
I relate with everything so SO much. I always obsess with fictional worlds, probably to escape the mundane. One thing I learned this year is that our brain doesn’t differentiate between the feelings for a fictional character and a real person, which is mad but also makes sense considering how much I’ve cried and loved fictional characters! And of course Aurora is on repeat for weeks!
Seems like your integrating a part of your shadow. If that is what you're doing, I gotta question how relevant an opinion from someone who seems be doing the opposite can really be. No shade, just dubious of the idea of asking the gym teacher about philosophy 🤷
It does seem like shade though... Frankly, I don't believe that our socially defined positions ('gym teacher') exclude us from meaningful thoughts on even the biggest of topics ('philosophy'). The very phrase is incredibly elitist and perpetuates the worst of classism. Some of the most insightful people in my life have worked in non-academic or intellectual professions - education or professional attainment isn't the only route to wisdom. And I say this as a woman with a Master's degree and two decades of professional writing behind me. As for integrating a part of my shadow, I think that everyone has dark and light inside and that as we mature our job is to reach a place of acceptance when it comes to the authentic internal self. Does your questioning of the relevance of my opinion come from a moral or religious point of judgement? Of course the shade is yours to cast, but for anyone reading who doesn't have a job which has traditionally come with socially agreed authority, I very much want you to know I disagree wholeheartedly with this premise.
Oh yeah, just to be clear. Not questioning your opinion. Questioning the opinion of your brother on your taste and how you use your time. Ya know not his biz 🤷
Words have weight, I’m incredibly measured with how I use mine. I’m not clutching pearls, I’m just passionate about certain subjects. Brits have a specific and extremely strong and testy relationship with class, it’s a hard context to understand if you don’t live here. Many many people here would find that offensive, I understand that in different places and contexts it might not be taken the same way, but no matter what the linguistic device, the choice of semantics remain powerful. There are lots of other words you would not substitute here because they wouldn’t be socially acceptable. Devices don’t live outside of that. I’m not offended personally - as I said it’s your shade to throw, free country. Lol meek. Clearly 🙄
I will say I respect your culture. In a lot of ways I wish my countrymen would think about class more.
Words do have weight. I have been bullied too I know. All I'm saying is that my culture is different and valid, same as yours. The tool of art and discourse is to disintegrate our ideas and see if they come back together given different pressures and perspectives.
As a multicultural person, a student of love and the other. I ask you to try to understand me from my context. I ask you to see my challenges as a good faith invitation into a perspective.
I will leave you be sister. I hope the rest of your day goes smoothly. I hope that offenses slide off of you and that you can readily touch love and acceptance. ✌️
I'm going to be real with you here. All except 1 of my influences are non academic. I haven't found thinking people in academia as much as I haven't found it in church. It's a device. The crow specializes in problem solving out of the water the dolphin in. One knows more in their specialized area and both a valid and unique.
NGL disappointed with the instant purl clutching. Being easily offendable leads to hegemonic moralizing as quickly as farts lead to pooping. I still really like your writing. Meekness does not become you.
Almost didn’t read all the way through because I hate (don’t kill me) the ‘Daisy’ wispy 70s nostalgia that pervades the likes of Coachella et al, but I’m so glad I did because every word rang true. For young teenage me, and I know I’m showing my age here, the (original, Ralph Macchio) Karate Kid, Back To The Future and The Princess Bride were visited over and over and over at the cinema. Of late is has been The White Lotus, one and two (especially two - Harper Spiller is my 🥰) I’m a well and truly grown woman, FFS, but I need to escape dammit. And escape, immerse and fail to surface for ages, I certainly do. I know exactly where you’re coming from - that path is well trodden.
I love this!
I have never felt so seen!
I'm glad I'm not alone immersing myself in DJ&T6. Thinking of Californian holidays :)
I have failed to be taken by Daisy Jones, but I did love The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo (also by Taylor Jenkins Reid) which was possibly the most perfect holiday read ever.
Can I suggest that if you really did like the style of documentary interview (which I HATED in written form with Daisy Jones, I found it tedious and way too heavy handed with exposition) then you should try Moonage Daydream on Netflix, about the very real David Bowie, it's honestly beautiful.
Sounds right up my street! xx
Literally have been playing the Aurora soundtrack all day 🤣🤣🤣
Awesome read and feeling very seen right now. I don’t need to hide my love of basic bitch art!
YES YES YES. 'Thinking deeply about it this week, what I think that this kind of fiction allows me is space to harmlessly flirt with doing things that would totally trash my life and everything I hold dear.' Totally agreed. Also, my fascination with the hair of the female cast was borderline unhealthy.
I relate with everything so SO much. I always obsess with fictional worlds, probably to escape the mundane. One thing I learned this year is that our brain doesn’t differentiate between the feelings for a fictional character and a real person, which is mad but also makes sense considering how much I’ve cried and loved fictional characters! And of course Aurora is on repeat for weeks!
Never has a truer word been writ! Yet another brilliant and perceptive article 💛
Refreshing 🤍
Seems like your integrating a part of your shadow. If that is what you're doing, I gotta question how relevant an opinion from someone who seems be doing the opposite can really be. No shade, just dubious of the idea of asking the gym teacher about philosophy 🤷
It does seem like shade though... Frankly, I don't believe that our socially defined positions ('gym teacher') exclude us from meaningful thoughts on even the biggest of topics ('philosophy'). The very phrase is incredibly elitist and perpetuates the worst of classism. Some of the most insightful people in my life have worked in non-academic or intellectual professions - education or professional attainment isn't the only route to wisdom. And I say this as a woman with a Master's degree and two decades of professional writing behind me. As for integrating a part of my shadow, I think that everyone has dark and light inside and that as we mature our job is to reach a place of acceptance when it comes to the authentic internal self. Does your questioning of the relevance of my opinion come from a moral or religious point of judgement? Of course the shade is yours to cast, but for anyone reading who doesn't have a job which has traditionally come with socially agreed authority, I very much want you to know I disagree wholeheartedly with this premise.
Oh yeah, just to be clear. Not questioning your opinion. Questioning the opinion of your brother on your taste and how you use your time. Ya know not his biz 🤷
My b ✌️
P.s. I went to community college where is all participation awards and gold stars 🤩. Much love sister please lower your hackles.
Words have weight, I’m incredibly measured with how I use mine. I’m not clutching pearls, I’m just passionate about certain subjects. Brits have a specific and extremely strong and testy relationship with class, it’s a hard context to understand if you don’t live here. Many many people here would find that offensive, I understand that in different places and contexts it might not be taken the same way, but no matter what the linguistic device, the choice of semantics remain powerful. There are lots of other words you would not substitute here because they wouldn’t be socially acceptable. Devices don’t live outside of that. I’m not offended personally - as I said it’s your shade to throw, free country. Lol meek. Clearly 🙄
I will say I respect your culture. In a lot of ways I wish my countrymen would think about class more.
Words do have weight. I have been bullied too I know. All I'm saying is that my culture is different and valid, same as yours. The tool of art and discourse is to disintegrate our ideas and see if they come back together given different pressures and perspectives.
As a multicultural person, a student of love and the other. I ask you to try to understand me from my context. I ask you to see my challenges as a good faith invitation into a perspective.
I will leave you be sister. I hope the rest of your day goes smoothly. I hope that offenses slide off of you and that you can readily touch love and acceptance. ✌️
I'm going to be real with you here. All except 1 of my influences are non academic. I haven't found thinking people in academia as much as I haven't found it in church. It's a device. The crow specializes in problem solving out of the water the dolphin in. One knows more in their specialized area and both a valid and unique.
NGL disappointed with the instant purl clutching. Being easily offendable leads to hegemonic moralizing as quickly as farts lead to pooping. I still really like your writing. Meekness does not become you.