Money, Money, Money; Living in a Material World; I ‘aint Saying She’s a Golddigger. When we talk about what women want from their men, we don’t have to look far in music culture to get a hint. Yet, for several reasons, I’ve just personally never got the money memo.
A very late comment, but a somewhat different perspective. I also have never ascribed to the dating based on how much someone earns. My partner and the father of my child earns significantly less than me. While I agree with all of your thoughts, my counter perspective is without a solid base it makes things a lot harder. You alluded to a few things but IMO the important preconditions are 1) earning less is not the same as financial recklessness 2) earning less isn’t an excuse for not treating you or never paying 3) you need a solid base of respect and communication, which is always the case but even more so when there are income disparities
Thank you for this piece that I can very much relate to! Similarly, I’ve never much cared about anyone’s earning potential or account balance when it comes to romantic relationships. When I was in my twenties I dated mostly creative types which was great and provided me with lots of interesting conversations and fun experiences - even though I was consistently out-earning all of them. Money was just never something that ‘interested’ - as long as I’ve got myself covered I’m good. I’m now married to someone who earns about the same as me, which in a way I find ideal as it’s quite neutralising. Neither of us can use our financial power to steer family decisions, and our careers are equally as important/unimportant.
This was such an affirming read as someone who has always out-earned her partner. I totally agree with everything you've said - money really does comes and go, and there are so many factors that are more important in sustaining a long-term relationship!
A very late comment, but a somewhat different perspective. I also have never ascribed to the dating based on how much someone earns. My partner and the father of my child earns significantly less than me. While I agree with all of your thoughts, my counter perspective is without a solid base it makes things a lot harder. You alluded to a few things but IMO the important preconditions are 1) earning less is not the same as financial recklessness 2) earning less isn’t an excuse for not treating you or never paying 3) you need a solid base of respect and communication, which is always the case but even more so when there are income disparities
Thank you for this piece that I can very much relate to! Similarly, I’ve never much cared about anyone’s earning potential or account balance when it comes to romantic relationships. When I was in my twenties I dated mostly creative types which was great and provided me with lots of interesting conversations and fun experiences - even though I was consistently out-earning all of them. Money was just never something that ‘interested’ - as long as I’ve got myself covered I’m good. I’m now married to someone who earns about the same as me, which in a way I find ideal as it’s quite neutralising. Neither of us can use our financial power to steer family decisions, and our careers are equally as important/unimportant.
This was such an affirming read as someone who has always out-earned her partner. I totally agree with everything you've said - money really does comes and go, and there are so many factors that are more important in sustaining a long-term relationship!
A fantastic piece KO! Knocking it out of the park chica 👊